he child’s own birth parent of whom they are the partner losing their parental status or parental responsibility, although the non-resident parent will lose that status and parental responsibility if they enjoyed it previously. See section 46(2) and 46(3)(b) of the Act. 144 8.59. It is important for the appointed social worker to ascertain from the proposed adopter what their hopes and expectations are, and ensure that they have a full understanding of the implications of adoption, and are aware of the court’s duty under section 1(6) of the Act, if an application is made, to consider all the options available to it. Sometimes they will not have appreciated fully that any decision will not only depend on the child’s welfare, but will consider the child’s wishes and feelings. In those cases where the proposed adopter has lived as a partner of the parent for a long time, it may be the case that the child believes this partner to be their parent, and the couple have not realised that the proposed adoption will need to be explained to the child. The involvement of the social worker as the result of the notice of intention to adopt provides an opportunity for the parent and partner to be given support and assistance in telling the child about their origins. In cases where the partner and parent obstruct attempts to discuss the true position with the child, it may be necessary, once their application is made, to seek directions from the court. 8.60. In some cases, it may appear that the primary motivation is for the child to have the same surname as the mother’s partner and their half-siblings. Couples need to be given information about other means by which such an end may be achieved (if desirable and consistent with the child’s welfare). Where the child’s birth father does n